Broken Wings

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Today I cried. I cried because I could feel the hard, solid, shell I have spent decades plastering around every inch of me cracking, leaving me soft and vulnerable, and revealing a very broken pair of wings.

The past week my anxiety levels sky-rocketed in anticipation of a few changes, and as my anxiety went up, my eating went down. I need recovery. I need it with every inch of my being – physically, mentally, psychologically, spiritually. My eating disorder weighs me down and impacts every aspect of my life. I can’t bear it. And I can’t bear to let it go.

I saw a dietitian yesterday. I had been resistant to visiting one for years and was not looking forward to it. Not one bit. I spent two hours with the most beautiful, empathetic lady, talking about every aspect of my eating disorder, stresses, emotional state and psychological issues. She listened, she heard me, then offered hints, tips and a generic plan to increase my nutritional intake.

Later I received the kindest, most lovely email from a complete stranger and she said, “How can I help you? I want to support you in any way I can.” Isn’t that beautiful?! Someone who has been through bulimia hell, walked the torturous road of recovery, and now reaches out to offer me a helping hand.

But the thing that sent me into floods of tears, and made me feel my protective shell was being ripped from my naked flesh, was the first phone call in an eight week online group course for recovery from bulimia and binge eating.

I said in a previous post, I sometimes feel the ED is a solid, tangible, physical, separate part of me. And when I come across another piece of the recovery puzzle – something I believe is actually going to progress me a little further away from illness and propel me closer to wellness – my ED panics. It flexes its’ muscles and says, “Look at me! I’m stronger than you! I’m not leaving!”

And as I listened in on that conference call today, with eight other women who intimately know the despair of bulimia, I felt my eating disorder panicking and reminding me that if it goes, there is nothing left to protect me. I have learned no other way to cope with life, and I rarely cope well. I shed tears of grief, for behaviours I have clung to like a drowning woman all my life. I sobbed in fear of the emotions and the angst that will come flooding in when the cracks are wide enough and my protection is gone.

I have placed a lot of desperate hope into this course. I wonder if it is possible to ever recover if I can’t find the courage and commitment to practice the skills I desperately need to make long term changes. And yet as I spent 90 minutes on the phone with these wonderful women, I felt a glimmer of hope that maybe recovery is in my future. Perhaps it is not impossible.

I have no idea what recovery looks and feels like. And I certainly have no idea what will replace disordered eating, self-harm, and candy crush addiction to allow me to cope with the inevitable stresses that every one of us is subject to at different times. But I am hoping as the rest of my protective shell is ripped away, I can slowly unfurl those broken wings, and learn to fly again.

 

2 Comments Add yours

  1. cricket90265 says:

    Hugs, my friend. If a change of scenery would help, you are welcome in our home.

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  2. Simone says:

    That is incredibly kind Cricket! However we do live on different continents and I struggle to find time to go camping for two nights, so a trip across to the other side of the world is just not happening any time soon! One day 🙂 xx

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